My response ;
The sad thing is ; there are a small handfull of people who do choose it. This is grown out of the same ignorance that makes people assume we are attention whore and the like. These same people usually are not transgendered or gender dysphoric and by going through transition they make themselves such and really mess up their life. I have met a few.
I had one friend who grew up in a militant feminist lesbian family. His/her parents outwardly hated men to no end and their son grew up among this. He/she is a straight male who chooses to be trans just to be accepted by his/her parents. His trained hatred of men and thus hatred of his own manhood has left him rather emotionally and socially crippled.
There are also the Drag Queens (gay men who perform dressed as women but do not actually see themselves as women) and transvestites (people who dress as the opposite sex usually more for sexual gratification) who do cry for attention. As a result they are what everyone assumes we are. Attention whore, fags and perverts (no offense to Queens and Transvestites, it is just how people sadly see you)
The problem is because we do not want attention we tend to do more to avoid it than they do. The sad result is there are very few positive examples of transsexuals for the rest of the world to see and plenty of very obvious "fags" and "perverts"
Just want to say something to the people reading this inclined to think we are fags and perverts ; 1) the majority of transsexuals are disgusted by their genitalia and their body in general and many cannot function sexually because of this. Add in the fact that Male to Female trans people take hormones which almost always completely neuter them (no erection) and generally completely kill their sex drive should be pretty solid proof that sex is not a motivation. 2) Not sure of the numbers for Female to Males, but I have read a few different studies and articles which show that roughly 40% of us are attracted strictly to women. If to you a "guy" who wears a dress and takes hormones is still a man, by your own definition of gender they are straight much of the time.
I had one friend who grew up in a militant feminist lesbian family. His/her parents outwardly hated men to no end and their son grew up among this. He/she is a straight male who chooses to be trans just to be accepted by his/her parents. His trained hatred of men and thus hatred of his own manhood has left him rather emotionally and socially crippled.
There are also the Drag Queens (gay men who perform dressed as women but do not actually see themselves as women) and transvestites (people who dress as the opposite sex usually more for sexual gratification) who do cry for attention. As a result they are what everyone assumes we are. Attention whore, fags and perverts (no offense to Queens and Transvestites, it is just how people sadly see you)
The problem is because we do not want attention we tend to do more to avoid it than they do. The sad result is there are very few positive examples of transsexuals for the rest of the world to see and plenty of very obvious "fags" and "perverts"
Just want to say something to the people reading this inclined to think we are fags and perverts ; 1) the majority of transsexuals are disgusted by their genitalia and their body in general and many cannot function sexually because of this. Add in the fact that Male to Female trans people take hormones which almost always completely neuter them (no erection) and generally completely kill their sex drive should be pretty solid proof that sex is not a motivation. 2) Not sure of the numbers for Female to Males, but I have read a few different studies and articles which show that roughly 40% of us are attracted strictly to women. If to you a "guy" who wears a dress and takes hormones is still a man, by your own definition of gender they are straight much of the time.
In a similar light ; I am a Trans Woman (born male, living female) and my Fiance Isaac is a Trans Man (born female, living male). So regardless of whether you accept us as our chosen gender or choose to strictly define us by our birth sex, we are still a straight couple either way.
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